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“Save Your Son from Gayness in Seven Easy Steps!”
James Dobson’s Focus on the Family has posted this delightful series of articles on how to instill your children with the proper “gender identification.” The first piece is called “Is my child becoming a homosexual?” and it basically says that if your child exhibits “gender confusion,” there’s a good chance that he’ll turn into a fruit:
Evidences of gender confusion or doubt in boys ages 5 to 11 may include:
1. A strong feeling that they are “different” from other boys.
So if your son is different from other boys, he’s well on his way to becoming a homosexual. Make sure to stamp out his individuality at all costs, and discourage him from developing any original thoughts or ideas.
(And incidentally, if feeling different or apart from other boys your age is a good indicator of future gayness, doesn’t this mean Ben Shapiro is… OK, I won’t say it. I don’t want Jim to get too excited.)
2. A tendency to cry easily, be less athletic, and dislike the roughhousing that other boys enjoy.
And make sure that you sign your son up for manly sports like football or lacrosse- running track just won’t cut it. If he’s still not into roughousing after playing football, buy him a gun and teach him to shoot defenseless animals. After all, nothing exhibits masculine bravery and valor like shooting harmless herbivores from fifty yards away.
3. A persistent preference to play female roles in make-believe play.
If you catch him trying on mommy’s shoes, slap him. And most importantly, don’t let him watch cartoons featuring this wascally gay-enabler:
“Ehhhhhhhhhhhn, what’s up, Doc Dobson?”
4. A strong preference to spend time in the company of girls and participate in their games and other pastimes.
Similarly, don’t let your daughters hang around boys who like spending time with girls. You can read more about this in another Focus on the Family article, called “Is My Daughter Becoming a Fag Hag?”
5. A susceptibility to be bullied by other boys, who may tease them unmercifully and call them “queer,” “fag” and “gay.”
In other words, a susceptibility to be bullied by boys who were raised by people like James Dobson.
6. A tendency to walk, talk, dress and even “think” effeminately.
Yes, even if your son walks, talks and dresses like a man, there could be covert gayness lurking deep within his thoughts. You might want to hook him up to an E-Meter and show him pictures of Chippendale dancers to see if he gets aroused. (And if he does, seek professional help.)
7. A repeatedly stated desire to be ? or insistence that he is ? a girl.
Well, I’m a lesbian because I’m not as stupid most straight guys, but I’m still attracted to women. Is that OK, Dr. Dobson? Is it cool to be a lesbian if I’m a guy?
If your child is experiencing several signs of gender confusion, professional help is available. It’s best to seek that help before your child reaches puberty.
And definitely before he buys his first Cher album.
“By the time the adolescent hormones kick in during early adolescence, a full-blown gender identity crisis threatens to overwhelm the teenager,” warns psychologist Dr. James Dobson.
To compound the problem, many of these teens experience “great waves of guilt accompanied by secret fears of divine retribution.”
Fears that are completely justified, mind you: if God catches your son playing with dolls, He’s liable to smack the shit out of him.
agrippacash said,
August 9, 2005 at 0:56
Sadly, I actually hovered over the FoF Fag Hag link to see if it worked. Maybe it will be in next month’s Brio.
Honestly if you are that concerned just sit the kid down and make him watch Zapped. You’ll have your answer by prom.
Ukko said,
August 9, 2005 at 0:58
All I can say is that I truly pity homosexuals who grow up in families like Dobson’s. No child should have to go through the pain of living with such twisted evil, dressed up so clinically like Dr. Mengele.
(Godwinned. Over.)
Hysterical Woman said,
August 9, 2005 at 1:00
Gay=Transexual? Sadly, no.
Fingal said,
August 9, 2005 at 1:22
The theme song for this entry would have to be
Robyn Hitchcock’s “Uncorrected Personality Traits”
uncorrected personality traits
that
seem
whimsical in a child
may
prove to be ugly
in a fully grown adult
lack of involvement with the father
or over-involvement with the mother
can result in lack of ability
to relate to sexual peers
and in homosexual leanings
narcissism, transsexuality
girls from the waist up
men from the waist down
attempts to be your own love object
reconcile your parents to you by becoming both at once.
There’s more lyric and some three-part a capella harmony. On one of the collections of singles.
Fingal said,
August 9, 2005 at 1:23
Sorry about the excess blank lines and the bizarre indenting — it didn’t look like that in the preview.
-F.
Brad R. said,
August 9, 2005 at 1:24
Don’t worry, I’ll fix it…
VKW said,
August 9, 2005 at 1:47
“You might want to hook him up to an E-Meter and show him pictures of Chippendale dancers to see if he gets aroused. (And if he does, seek professional help.)”
Nah, y’all want to hook him up to a genital plethysmograph. That’ll git ‘er done!
Some girl said,
August 9, 2005 at 1:56
This is seriously the saddest story I have ever read. And I’m finding it on a site that usually makes me laugh. I grew up in a fundamentalist home, being forced to overcome sexuality issues at a late age. And I’m straight; I can’t imagine the pain this type of advice is going to force on helpless children. I can’t decide if I’m going to throw up or cry now.
jeff said,
August 9, 2005 at 2:02
I just sent this questionaire (Is Your Son Gay) to my Mom. While I’m gay as they come, sadly, I didn’t exhibit any of the traits “Dr” Dobson lays out. Odd, isn’t it?
Woodrowfan said,
August 9, 2005 at 2:05
Gee Jeff, you must not “really” be gay! At least according to “Dr” Dobson
jeff said,
August 9, 2005 at 2:11
I’d offer proof, but I think proof is illegal in many states, sadly.
s.z. said,
August 9, 2005 at 2:38
I can hardly wait for the next series of articles, “Is Your Child Becoming a Liberal?” It includes more tips on how to stamp out your child’s personality, as well as his or her hopes and dreams (because God wants you to).
Andrew A. Gill said,
August 9, 2005 at 3:16
I’m with Eddie Izzard–I’m a male lesbian.
Also, Brad’s right. Once he buys his first Cher album, the best that you can hope for is converting him to Village People, or possibly A John Waters Christmas.
Brad R. said,
August 9, 2005 at 3:20
Also, Brad’s right. Once he buys his first Cher album, the best that you can hope for is converting him to Village People, or possibly A John Waters Christmas.
LOL.
Andrew A. Gill said,
August 9, 2005 at 3:31
Oh, and for those of you who haven’t heard it, I strongly recommend the Fresh Air interview with John Waters about A John Waters Christmas.
It’s got a clip from “Santa Claus is a Black Man.”
Why do I only like the interviews that Terry Gross does with gay men?
Red and black said,
August 9, 2005 at 3:50
Yeah, unfortunately, this is just too sad to be funny for me.
All I have to say is: you start in on religion, this is the sort of shit you end up with. Stick with the empirical study of reality, people!
Anne said,
August 9, 2005 at 3:52
All I can say is that I truly pity homosexuals who grow up in families like Dobson’s.
Oy, me too.
Gouldie said,
August 9, 2005 at 4:16
Did you see the other article on “How To Prevent Your Child From Becoming A Homosexual”. http://www.focusonyourchild.com/develop/art1/A0000689.html
Two of my favorites from it were:
“A number of them (homosexuals) had traits that could be considered gifts: bright, precocious, social and relational, and artistically talented.?
These are traits that COULD BE considered gifts, but in fact are only detriments and should be discouraged at all costs.
And this one … “The truth is, Dad is more important than Mom. Mothers make boys. Fathers make men…”
There you have it. Let’s just get the misogyny right out there. No sense in hiding it. And all this time I thought it was the Y chromosome that made men.
Dominic said,
August 9, 2005 at 4:51
My personal favorite is the way that parents are supposed to pile on to kids who are already being bullied by their peers. Y’know, just in case they didn’t already hate themselves enough already. What loving, christian advice!
Steve Talbert said,
August 9, 2005 at 5:46
Of course it’s Christian advice to keep pilling it on. He had his own kid nailed to a cross, remember, so that the other people in the neighborhood would pay attention to him and get in line. Sounds like he needs therapy instead of prayers.
merlallen said,
August 9, 2005 at 6:10
Or they could do what the dude in Florida did. Beat a little three year old to death.
cowalker said,
August 9, 2005 at 7:06
Hey it’s not like sexuality is complicated or anything. Male and female, He created them. Pay no attention to those mixed chromosomes, those undependable androgen receptors, the ambiguous genitalia. If you do, your mind will only crack open and admit all kinds of new ideas.
Marq said,
August 9, 2005 at 9:32
I, also, don’t particularly fit “Dr.” Dobson’s little profile. I know very few gay men who would fit a majority of it. ‘Course, even one slight match is probably good enuff for Sponge Dob.
I take it this refers to gay children? Frankly, a lot of them wind up killing themselves when they start in this sort of environment. Or they come out of the closet as teens and are either shuffled off to “ex-gay” conversion camp (doesn’t work), or are kicked out or run away, often winding up as prostitutes in order to survive. The director of the skanky Love In Action Retreats (yes, note the acronym) has stated that maybe the gay kids who suicide are better off dead, even though in his book, a suicide is a one-way ticket to hell (say “Hi!” to Brad and Gavin, kids!).
You mean This bastard?
yagi said,
August 9, 2005 at 12:29
According to ‘Doc’ Dobson, due to my sensitive nature, I ended up gay and lonely.
Meanwhile, in reality, I grew up with a healthy respect for women, remained heterosexual, married a lovely girl, and started a family.
Dobson, you’re full of sh1t. And f*ck you for contributing to hate crimes.
Greg said,
August 9, 2005 at 14:28
Hmm. I knew I was gay from a very early age but these traits never applied. And Dobson left out the trait that spelled it out for me - wanting to nail every hot guy I saw. Perhaps he should have listed that. “If your son wants to sit on a great big stiffy there is a chance he could become effeminate.”
Woodrowfan said,
August 9, 2005 at 14:37
Let’s see, I wa snever really intereste din sports, prefered girls as friends, got caled names like “queer” a lot, spent a lot of time reading rather than in “roughhousing” and felt I was “different”. According to Dobson I must be flaming. That’d be a surprise to my wife cause I’m happily married and, judging from my taste in, um, erotica, totally straight. Sounds like Dobson’s “methdology” is about as useful as determing my personality by using one of those placemats in Chinese resturants that tells me what I’m like based on what year I was born.
Woodrowfan said,
August 9, 2005 at 14:37
I also can’t type woth a damn when I’m pissed off I guesss…
D. Sidhe said,
August 9, 2005 at 15:06
Oddly enough, I do seem to fit several of these indicators. I can only conclude that I am a gay man.
This all reminds me of the friend who explained that some “in-depth” web personality quiz offered the startling insight that she was bisexual.
Really, I inquired. How in-depth, exactly? How many questions, in fact? A dozen or so, it seems. Strange, I noted, ’cause I could do that in two.
Sexuality is, as others have observed, a very complicated thing. On the other hand, I’m often baffled by twits like Dobson who manage to both overthink it all, and completely miss the point.
gouldie said,
August 9, 2005 at 15:48
No child should have to go through the pain of living with such twisted evil, dressed up so clinically like Dr. Mengele.
I can’t imagine the pain this type of advice is going to force on helpless children.
Hey it’s not like sexuality is complicated or anything
Sexuality is, as others have observed, a very complicated thing
I just want to say that I love all of you!
Some girl said,
August 9, 2005 at 17:17
“I take it this refers to gay children?”
I don’t think it refers just to gay children. The fundamentalist attitude toward sexuality and gender roles wrecks havoc on straights and gays alike. (Although definitely more so to gays and lesbians.)
dsquared said,
August 9, 2005 at 17:31
manly sports like football or lacrosse
You are kidding about lacrosse, arentcha? That is the ne plus ultra of girl’s sports.
Brad R. said,
August 9, 2005 at 17:34
You are kidding about lacrosse, arentcha?
You’ve obviously never watched a men’s lacrosse team. It’s a pretty nasty sport. I think you’re thinking of field hockey.
NYC said,
August 9, 2005 at 17:34
Here is NYC it’s well known that Rudy Giuliani likes cross-dress, though only in public events and shows like Saturday Night Live. He’s straight, (as far as we know) though he did once live with 2 gay men during his divorce.
Should be fun for Dr. Dobson when Rudy runs for President.
MO said,
August 9, 2005 at 17:39
Umm, but Jesus hung around with a bunch of girls too, way more than most men back then would have done. Oh, the shocking implications!
Vestal Vespa said,
August 9, 2005 at 17:48
I thought I was a lesbian in ninth grade. But as it turned, out, I was just living in a small town where all the men were assholes.
Now just how would Dobson have girls keep from turning into lesbians? Does he subscribe to the old born-again line of reasoning that women are born without a sex instinct, only to have it thrust upon us by a sex-saturated culture? Or does he enjoy girl-on-girl action as much as the rest of us?
Vestal Vespa said,
August 9, 2005 at 17:51
Oh, and another thing: who here DID NOT know the prototypical lineman/QB on the football team that turned out to be a flaming homo?
lack of involvement with the father
or over-involvement with the mother
can result in lack of ability
to relate to sexual peers
Mommy’s alright, Daddy’s alright, they just seem a little weeeeeeeeeeird, surrender!
Mike said,
August 9, 2005 at 18:00
James Dobson is an evil, animal-abusing, sadistic little scum. I pity his kids, and the kids of anyone who follows his advice.
Anonymous said,
August 9, 2005 at 18:15
“Sounds like Dobson’s “methdology” is about as useful as determing my personality by using one of those placemats in Chinese resturants that tells me what I’m like based on what year I was born.”
Actually, I think the placemats are more reliable.
Stewart Dean said,
August 9, 2005 at 18:19
This stuff is /so/ disturbing…I can only hope that someone will write a sendup of it…a piece on detecting emergent bigotry in your society and 12 steps to cauterize it.
Onward Christian Bigots, Marching as to war,
With the cross of….of…of…whoever that guy with liberal (and who knows, maybe homo) tendencies marching on before…
Must be nice to have a detached conscience….it’s like a lobotomy or a detached retina…you no longer get input from your conscience, you just ‘know’ right behavior. Sieg Heil!
mdhatter said,
August 9, 2005 at 18:24
Hey, we’re all faggots here, but at least we’re ot British. Or Finnish -shudder-
Anonymous said,
August 9, 2005 at 18:28
No need to fight it.
You’re a faggot.
they used to call us ‘commie’
lately, it’s been ‘liberal’
since that too has rolled off the leftie ducks back… now, we’re all just ‘faggots’.
I may be a straight faggot, but i am a faggot nonetheless. (and a faggot-baggins at that)
mdhatter said,
August 9, 2005 at 18:28
crap, well, that was me
Erin said,
August 9, 2005 at 18:35
Aw, but you left out the best part:
Meanwhile, the boy’s father has to do his part. He needs to mirror and affirm his son’s maleness. He can play rough-and-tumble games with his son, in ways that are decidedly different from the games he would play with a little girl. He can help his son learn to throw and catch a ball. He can teach him to pound a square wooden peg into a square hole in a pegboard. He can even take his son with him into the shower, where the boy cannot help but notice that Dad has a penis, just like his, only bigger.
Dan Someone said,
August 9, 2005 at 18:47
Boy, I sure hope that “penis in the shower” thing, or something like it, works. My 2-year-old son emulates his big sister in every way, to the point of insisting on having a ponytail holder put in his hair fairly frequently. (Of course, since he has short, manly hair, it usually ends up making a sort of quasi Samurai topknot, and I am pretty sure the Samurai were manly men, but still….)
The other day, he walked on on me after my shower, and we had a brief colloquy on the existence and whereabouts of my penis. Now I feel affirmed by Dr. Dobson. Perhaps there is hope for my son after all.
Did this comment contain too much information? I’m losing the ability to tell.
nosey online said,
August 9, 2005 at 19:00
The Choice
When I read stuff like this, I don’t know whether to pull my hair out or cut myself (of course I’m joking, only the boys in James Dobson’s world react like that). Brad R. reads Focus on Fascism so we…
cereal breath said,
August 9, 2005 at 19:04
well the good thing about dobson’s gender template is that it will lead to an entire, newly formed generation of miserable, repressed, and confused christian men. oh wait, that’s a bad thing because those are the motherfuckers who drool war spittle into their office mugs.
they may suffer for their whole lives, but hey, at least during the “penis and anus check” portion of the pearly gates review they will get a resounding gold star for gential and orifice purity.
Jim said,
August 9, 2005 at 19:09
OK, I won’t say it. I don’t want Jim to get too excitedHahahahaha. Glad to be of service, Brad. Not in *that* way, though.As for Sponge Dob, what an asshat. I knew I was queer when I was 6. Strong dad, weak mother, love sports (esp. baseball), never liked musicals (oh, OK, if Jesus Christ Superstar counts, then yeah, I’m a flamer) etc. etc.I just can’t find the humor in this shit, I’m sorry. So many gays and lesbians are warped by this crap that it just makes me furious. It never seems to occur to the Sponge Dob types that maybe, just maybe, the problems that gays and lesbians have that they love to trot out–promiscuity, drug & alchohol abuse, suicide–are direct results of the verbal bashings we receive from the time we’re kids. Creeps.
Anonymous said,
August 9, 2005 at 19:15
Jim, well said. Especially that part about JCSS. ;)
supergenius said,
August 9, 2005 at 19:26
fafblog has more on this subject today
Evil Kumquat said,
August 9, 2005 at 19:57
I think that, perhaps one hundred years ago, Dobson would have been a firm believer in phrenology, too.
Bullshit pseudosciences just seem to attract assholes.
Oh, FTLOG said,
August 9, 2005 at 21:53
OK, now I’m totally confused.
I thought the wingnuts were the “family-values” folks. Ya know, “compassionate conservatives” and all that hooey.
But…but…but, they want every fertilized egg to be born into this world. This world where they may be another dumpster baby or abandoned kid. Those “lucky” enough to be children of Dipsh*t Dobson’s followers, can look forward to being judged and persecuted by their own parents if they don’t play the right games or have the right friends.
And we’re all so surprised there are so many suicides of children from “good” families??
WTF?
Melissa said,
August 9, 2005 at 21:59
Sadly I live very close to the headquarters. It seems as though the local paper,town ect support this utter bullshit. People are easily swayed to follow those who brainwash because they can’t think on their own. We are doing everything we can from this end, to end this mans lies and fucked up agenda!
D. Sidhe said,
August 9, 2005 at 22:34
I have to admit it’s pretty hard to see the humor in this for me, too. But, you know, I’m glad a bunch of you could. Because this is the kind of thing that needs to be ridiculed.
So my thanks to those who made thoughtful comments, and thanks to those who made snarky comments alike.
What we *can’t* do is ignore this crap, because we’re not the people it’s aimed at. Those people think this all makes sense. And those people are raising kids.
Christopher said,
August 9, 2005 at 22:39
“It never seems to occur to the Sponge Dob types that maybe, just maybe, the problems that gays and lesbians have that they love to trot out–promiscuity, drug & alchohol abuse, suicide–are direct results of the verbal bashings we receive from the time we’re kids. Creeps.”
Oh, they realise it all right, but that’s not reason enough to stop the gay-bashing.
Dobson and his ilk are not working to help gays, but to protect society from gays.
If you think they’re sincere about helping gays and making people happier with “reparetive therepy” and whatnot, then their actions make no sense.
However, if you frame it so that they’re protecting society from gays, everything falls into place. A closeted gay person may be miserable and suicidal, but at least they aren’t hurting straight society.
That’s the way these scumbags think.
Lucy said,
August 9, 2005 at 23:40
I would just like to say that if more men were like Dobson, it would no longer be worth my time to bother being straight. (I’m a woman, by the way.) He is making a grave mistake casting aspersions on and driving out any interesting qualities little boys may have.”Focus on the Family: Turning Straight Women Gay Is Our Stock-in-Trade!”
GeoX said,
August 10, 2005 at 0:05
Dobson and company are scared shitless to think that people’s sexuality can’t be controlled–that gayness can “happen” to anyone. So they make up all these bullshit allegedly telltale signs for gayness so they can feel like they have some measure of control over it, and who cares who gets fucked up in the process; at least they get the illusion of control, and that’s all that matters.
God I hate these fuckheads. I hate them so much.
shelly said,
August 10, 2005 at 1:01
I wonder what would happen if it’s ever proven that homosexuality is part of some people’s genetic codes.
Also, I hope for the sakes of guys like Dobson that God is a lesbian. :)
Laura said,
August 10, 2005 at 1:55
I wonder what would happen if it’s ever proven that homosexuality is part of some people’s genetic codes.
Dobson would ignore it, of course. He’d probably accuse whoever proved the link as a tool of Satan sent to deliberately mislead us all into a life of sin, just like Darwin and his anti-Christian theory of so-called evolution.
Dobson’s list describes my early life pretty well, actually — I’m a transsexual. He seems to have gayness and transness confused in that tiny little skull of his. Wanting to be female and wanting to have sex with men are different things, and any gay guys around here will back me up on this.
In either case, his advice will indirectly cause one miserable childhood, one possible suicide, and one permanently estranged family for every poor soul misguided enough to heed it. I hope someday he sees the blood on his hands. Bleh.
D. Sidhe said,
August 10, 2005 at 2:04
Oh, hell. It wouldn’t bother them at all to discover gay is genetic. After all, so’s cystic fibrosis and sickle cell anemia, right? It wouldn’t come close to making them leave gay people alone, or admitting that maybe God wanted them that way.
They’d just go harder on We Need To Cure The Gayness! If they get really desperate, they might decide gene therapy is the solution, but I bet they’d have no problem with just drugging the fuck out of any gay kid they could get their hands on.
Pray harder, boys! And get the Thorazine!
I’d call him a repulsive worm, but I kinda like worms.
blakey said,
August 10, 2005 at 4:21
Gay is genetic? Holy Abortion!
Jillian said,
August 10, 2005 at 4:50
The standard response from the fucktard brigade to any evidence which suggests a biological basis to homosexuality is something along the lines of “well, alcoholism has a genetic component as well, but you don’t see anyone celebrating ‘alcoholic diversity’, do you?”
And that is usually the point where I rejoice in the fact that, even though I have a genetic predisposition to become a homocidal maniac every time I hear something that stupid, I’ve had enough social conditioning to simply point out that the person making such commments is, in fact, a fucktard.
Basically, reasoning doesn’t work on fascist theocrats.
Marq said,
August 10, 2005 at 5:10
Have you ever seen stuff about his freak son? He’s a keul “surfer/biker” dude evangelist, tattooed, leather-clad. Just got married (yes, to a girl). He wrote a book on why being intolerant is great.
Grover Gardner said,
August 10, 2005 at 5:27
Hey, why do girls get off the hook?
Parents! Does your little princess:
1) like to play sports or compete with boys?
2) hang around with the “guys” and swear?
3) prefer jeans to pretty dresses?
4) hate her long, beautiful hair because it “gets in her face”?
5) think motorcycles are cool and like to work on car engines?
6) dislike reading and playing with dolls?
7) hate to cry when she falls out of a tree or gets hurt playing soccer?
8) feel like she’s “different” from the other girls?
9) insist on being treated the same as the boys?
Seek counseling immediately! She may be a DYKE!
Marq said,
August 10, 2005 at 5:30
Actually, I have to somewhat disagree with several of the above posters. The Holy Rollers wouldn’t ignore this forever, nor would they wish to seek out a “cure” or a therapy to treat gayness with. They’d deny the evidence for a while, true, but once there was enough consensus… they’d come out in favor of conditional abortion and in vitro genetic testing to “out” the “gay babies.” Of course, it’s likely that any genetic component would merely indicate a predisposition for homosexuality, and that some percentage of those with the “gay gene(s)” would still turn out straight or bisexual. Collateral damage-they’d abort ‘em all. But still call all other abortion “murder.”
Insurmountable Opportunities said,
August 10, 2005 at 5:42
Dobson is a Dick
What a complete and utter pud. Total dork-wad all tied up in knots. Check out the post on Sadly, No. James Dobson is trying to help you stop the evils of queerness in your dear child.
Is My Child Becoming a Homo…er…sexual?
Should I worry …
MYOB said,
August 10, 2005 at 6:22
I was bullied for a while back when I was 6 years old. Then, that year, I grew 4 inches in height and was the one kicking their asses for a while.
Does this mean that Being_Tall=heterosexual?
MYOB’
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Bill S said,
August 10, 2005 at 11:22
If every kid who got picked on or called “faggot” was gay, there’d be no straight kids at all, would there?
I wasn’t into sports, partly because I was small, unathletic and wore glasses, and partly because they bored the crap outta me. (Athletes, on the other hand…)
I preferred reading and was considered artistically gifted. I liked musicals. I liked puppets (only a slight step away from dolls.) Instead of trying to fix those things, my parents accepted that I had different interests than other boys and, whaddaya know, actually loved me.
I did get teased and called “gay” and “Fag” growing up, right from kindergarton through high school. (I was picked on in other ways too.) Once I realized I WAS gay, it pissed me off to be called that, because I didn’t see how that could be a bad thing. (I reasoned, if I could be gay, didn’t that mean being gay had nothing to do with how good/bad you were?) Then I got scared (if that’s how they act when they’re just using it as a taunt, how are they going to act when they learn it’s true?) In any case, I didn’t want to be friends with anybody who acted like that. They seemed like assholes. People like Dobson might refrain from actually using those slurs (in public anyway) but they don’t try to discourage it in others. In fact, the crap they spew is just “Hey faggot!” dressed up to look like a reasoned opinion.
Jillian said,
August 10, 2005 at 12:41
Bingo! And when we treat the scumsuckers who spew this garbage with the slightest bit of respect, we find ourselves in roughly the same position as the Italian winemakers in the film I saw last night who defended their parents’ support of fascism by talking about how “Italy needed order” and “at least the trains ran on time” (oh, how I wish I were making the last one up).
There’s no defense for eliminationist bigotry. You’d think we would’ve learned that by now.
Anonymous said,
August 10, 2005 at 22:39
He seems to have gayness and transness confused in that tiny little skull of his.
A LOT of people do this. Gay male=being a girl, which is of course why it’s so horribly disgusting.
Reba said,
August 10, 2005 at 23:49
The 15 year old boy who lives next door frequently gets bullied. He hangs out with a lot of girls - always has. He plays music and is definitely “different.” He doesn’t like to fix cars with his dad (though his little sister does…) and he’s not into sports. He was complaining about being called a faggot, etc. I told him the next time someone did that he should point out that they’re simply jealous because he’s got a lot of female friends who want to hang out and listen to him play guitar, go to the movies or talk about books with him and whose moms let him sleep over at their houses…..oh, and that he very openly has at least two girlfriends at any given time. This in a smallish town. Thank god his parents aren’t of the fundie persuasion or JQ’s life would have been hell, for no real reason.
Truly twisted individuals will come from people listening to the likes of Dobson. His barely sublimated loathing of his own sexuality is patently obvious. Just because you marry and breed, Jimmy, doesn’t mean you aren’t gay, bi or questioning. Just sayin’…..
AZ_Squeegee said,
August 11, 2005 at 0:44
So, there’s all these “helpful” tips from “Dr.” Dobson for boys…..what about girls? Somehow, the dragging his daughter into the shower to show her his penis doesn’t sound beyond him, but probably wouldn’t go over well with his Fundie friends.
Bill said,
August 11, 2005 at 1:00
Here are a few other self tests:
>You might be gay (and in denial) if you’ve ever uttered the phrase:
Hey, that Pet Shop Boys CD was only a gift. (May substitute any Erasure, Donna Summer, or the “Best” of Stevie Nicks.)
>You might be gay if:
As a child you “borrowed” your mom’s “party” dress, long dark wig, grabbed her make-up and then found your older sister’s disco ball earrings. You got the Christmas lights (The full size ones.) placing them all around your mom’s full length mirror. After getting made up you recruited your baby sister to flick on and off (really quickly) a light switch that controlled a small table lamp which you had strategically placed off on the side of the mirror. (At just the perfect height to catch the disco ball earrings.) You then turned off all the lights except the Christmas ones, and cranked up your parent’s Hi-Fi to a tape of Donna Summer/Giorgio Moroder’s “I Feel Love.” to which you sung while gazing in to the full length mirror. As your baby sister flicked the light switch,
you swirled your arms up and around and around….. I FEEL LOVEEEEEEEEEEE……
Holly crap I’m gay.
The same scenario as above but this time a blonde wig, a black flowing gown with lace, and a strategically placed hair dryer to whip your hair back. The Look: The Mystical Chanteuse Image. The Music: “Stand Back.” The Magic: The one and only Stevie Nicks.
Signed,
The Anonymous Head of The Republican National Committee.
Nero fiddled. Bush bicycles.
Bill S said,
August 11, 2005 at 2:10
Bill, that’s not just a sign that you might be gay, it’s a sign that you might be fabulous!
Kynn Bartlett said,
August 11, 2005 at 5:13
Thanks to this helpful test, we now know, at last.
Jesus Christ: Provably Queer.
Psion said,
August 11, 2005 at 8:44
I pity any child that goes through that.. I had a christian mom and an athiest dad and didn’t get near as much shit as this guy is handing out..
Collin said,
August 12, 2005 at 21:16
Good post. And yes, Dobson is as looney as they come. I used to have to enter in his typed articles for the spot he ran in our local Colorado Springs newspaper, “Ask Dr. Dobson”. I always felt dirty afterwards.
Wendi said,
August 12, 2005 at 22:24
I want to say that I love your sarcasm about that silly article. The bugs bunny pic was perfect. I have two awesome kids. My daughter is my rough and tumble child and my son is a quiet, reflective thinker. According to this loon both of my children should be screwy. In the precious words of Bugs Bunny, “What a maroon!”
As a religious person, I could just strangle people who try to use religion to justify hurting people, especially children. Yes, I know we are supposed to love our neighbor, but I could happily love them with a 2×4 for buying into nonsense like this.
Political Apathy said,
August 13, 2005 at 4:59
Helping Boys Become Men, and Girls Become Women: Is My Child Becoming Homosexual?
Helping Boys Become Men, and Girls Become Women: Is My Child Becoming Homosexual?
I hate Focus on the Family.
Well, according to Dr. James Dobson and his Focus on the Family group who both despise gay people, if you think (insert scary music) your s…
El said,
August 13, 2005 at 19:07
In the UK Lacrosse is a game only played by girls at boarding schools!
me said,
September 14, 2005 at 5:55
you people are all stupid theres is no way your going to change your childs mind and if you do they will grow up despising you. so the best thing you can do is make dad spend more time with him and stop trying to be super-soccer mom… now to the last i am 16 years, old i hang out with nothing but girls, i wear tight pants, and yes I AM A HOMOSEXUAL!!! the defence rests.
me said,
September 14, 2005 at 5:57
to the last i apologize to all the people who do not hate homosexuals its just people need to grow up and stop burning people for being supposed witches
who me ? said,
September 14, 2005 at 6:39
Rrrr people piss me off I cant believe people have nothing better to do then sit around and think of ways to piss people off ….you cant tell someone NO and expect them not to want to do it more . if you tell your child no there going to grow up hating you and they may even feel ashamed they may not want to let people see who or what they really are and become CLOSET CASES my god people don’t you know what you are doing to your kids ……….if more parents were understanding and excepted there kids for who they are the world might not be as fucked up as it is …people need to be more open minded IM a homosexual and I’m proud to say that my best friend is gay and I will be by his side through thick and thin….open your eyes and mind people the world is fast becoming a place where gender is more and more becoming a non issue ……
who me said,
September 14, 2005 at 6:47
sorry about all the ranting people just make me mad sometimes ……
David Ben-Ariel said,
September 26, 2005 at 16:22
Homosexuality…. Is it a matter of choice? Are some born that way? And if so, then how could God condemn it? Or does He? Does it make a difference? Who offered it as an “alternative lifestyle?” Are same-sex drives due to conditioning? Are gays and lesbians a quirk of nature? Something queer to jeer? Would it have been better to have never been born? All of these questions and more are only a few of the many that race through people’s minds; causing controversy, heated arguments and emotional wounds, as words fly back and forth carelessly…
God and the Gays
jean-charles M. said,
November 6, 2005 at 5:39
HEllo, im here to comment on this horrible page that i found, First of all, i live in Canada, And with what im reading here. Im sure this concept was writed by a American. Theres no doubt about it. Fist i have to say im no gay but my aunth is and i respect her, we live in a world were we a born with what we have. ong legs, short arms, whatever the problem. This is whatthat makes us human. Being gay is not a choice, your born gay. For the dumbass of americans that think’s for themself and doesnt know or read or watch anything about science. Gay is due to a larger part of the female cromosones and brains. Everyone has to part in a brain, 1 female, 1 male. For the ones who wounder how. When two people have a kid, dont forget that its 50/50 is sperm and ovula ratio. 10 female cromosones and 10 males. In this case, a homosexual has a larger female brain part. Not by will but by nature. If you think that their is way to counter it, you must be fucked up somewhere in your brain… REEALLYYY!
AND PLEASE, screw the god thingy. Gay has nothing to do with religion. Dont mix science and crap together.
To conclude this, i reported your damn website to the human rights watch organisation and some forums.
My mother always told me that if you hate and you complexed about gay people, you must be one due to fear.
To end this, i hope this website will be brought down and hopefully never see such thing again on the net.
To Email me: feel free to send your ideas at : lezard111@hotmail.com
P.S. ( PLease do not come to canada, here we are opened to evvery culture and people. hopefully one day the united stats will stop with their prejudice. that day, we will all live in a better earth. )
Jean-charles M.
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gay texan said,
November 24, 2005 at 7:12
Jean-Charles, not only are you posting utterly unproven verbage, you are also posting your message to the wrong site! This site posted the article in question in order to expose it for the fucked-up travesty of pseudo-scientific dreck that it is!
As for visiting Canada, I already have, and I thankfully didn’t see there the same tendency that I see in you toward making idiotic mistakes.
You must be some conservative posing as a liberal in order to make us look like fools. Or else you are just naturallly stupid.
T said,
February 11, 2006 at 8:43
dude your fucked up, discourage individuality? If I knew where you lived I would beat the shit out of you. I don’t really like gays but fuck man your evil. Your like pure evil. If I ever find out where you live, I’m gonna kick your ass.
Tom said,
February 11, 2006 at 8:47
Oh, by the way I hate you, your the fucking fag, If someone tries this hard to cover up gayness, it’s often a sign that they are gay themselves so kill yourself before I do it for you.
worried mom said,
February 28, 2006 at 7:40
my three year old keeps reppeting he wants to be a girl like me not a boy like his dad what do i do
ashley said,
March 20, 2006 at 1:39
i was very offended by this ..belive it or not most people that are”gay” dont want to be. i hate myself right now because i realized im bi maybe a lesbian. every day i consder suicide cause it hurts so much that your kids pick pn peole like me.its not their fault its yours.you tell your kids not to talk to the “fags”im only 16 but i already know..its not my fault guys cant get me off they totally suck at oral.like every day i hear at least 20 times a day”well thats gay’ it gets really annoying why do people have to be so judgemental. for all you ass holes out there just leave gay guys alone.its one thing if they hit on you to freak out but to pick on him just because is getting really sad on your part.but the gay
ashley said,
March 20, 2006 at 1:49
but the gay people cant help your iggornance.leave the gay people alone if its not your ass their fuckin why do you care so much? i dont get that .the reason i even found this sight was because i wanted to see if i can be changed i cant so fuck all of you .this makes me so sad no wonder there are so many school shootings…keep telling you kids its ok to say shit like this to gay people ..i hope they get what they deserve..
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nik said,
April 27, 2006 at 21:06
most of u guys are full of shit.. in this changing world u gotta accept stuff like the fact that ppl wanna be gay, and as for fuckin canadian fag massive jean-charles m. go fuck urself. “born gay” my arse. it’s not cos ur canadian, (i am actually, altho more brit, thankfully) it’s cos ur full of shite, fuckin twins have been seperated at birth, raised in different manners, and ended up with totally opposite sexualities… hmmm, where’s the science in that? i think the science lies with the way they learn, understand, and develop from that when building social and sexual bonds with other. pshhhh
Anonymous said,
April 28, 2006 at 21:05
fuck u ignorant undercover homos
simon said,
May 13, 2006 at 9:45
what the fuck does it matter? im gay, and i dont really give a shit wether i was born or “raised” gay, its just a fundamental part of who i am.
im 18, and i recently “discoverd” that i was gay. it wasnt a choise, it was something i realized that i was repressing. that really fucked up my life in highschool: couldnt interact with the girls, because my mind was thinking like i was straight, but that didnt agree with my urges (coulnt bring myself to go beyond friendships, i hurt a girl or two with that), and couldnt interact with the boys, because well, i had unexplained and unwanted feeling that make things awkard.
its this kind of bullshit that perpetuates problem after problem. and it wasnt my parents (they wouldnt care if i was straight or gay), it was a side effect of society and mixed signals in my youth. to many people are still uneducated on this.
luckally for me, my friends are amazing. they’re cool with it, and actually werent supprised :P (im not a flaming homo through). im glad that homosexuality is more openly discussed and understood. i remeber one distant conversation with my friends: what if one of us turned out gay, what would be different… really, we couldnt think of anything.
yeah, im rambling, sorry. but this is utter bullshit. im ashamed to be christian.
praneeth said,
May 15, 2006 at 6:45
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praneeth said,
May 15, 2006 at 6:45
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Laura said,
June 27, 2006 at 7:04
You know, with people like this, you honestly have to wonder if they’re gay themselves.
After all, what better way to convince everyone that you’re not something than to make it clear that you hate that something with all the passion that your miniscule brain can muster?
Joshua said,
October 14, 2006 at 2:55
OK lemme just say this you are all abuncha f***tards if you think you can make ur kid into something there not being gay or lesbian is perfectly NORMAL! There I said it….what’s not normal is a parent’s drive to twist, alter, and even try some form of early mind manipulating brainwash to mold their kid into what they wish they were…..I AM A MALE, I AM NOT GAY, and lemme just say that i thought this thing was a JOKE because it is possibly quite the dumbest thing I have ever had the pleasure to read….and I’ve read short stoies by mentally handicapped children…HA! Zing~!
P.S. Lesbians are cool…..how could I not say it?
sephiroth thats all u need to know said,
November 2, 2006 at 10:41
you all are a bunch of idiotic facist fool who i hope rot in hell all that will do is lead the children into depression and think that their familys dont love them and lead to their suicied i just told my mom tonight how i was and feeling that i hide it for 9 fucking years thiunking it was wrong that they whould hate me i was going to kill myself till i got it out it went fine and i feel great u are whats wrong with this planet and i hope u die fucking nazi asswipe wanna bes wants wrong with being who u are so burn in hell fuckers
Butterfly said,
April 28, 2007 at 15:52
I have a brother that is gay, you know how sad it was for him and all of us trying to cope with it.. he attempted sucide on a daily basis,he turned demontic toward his peers and hatefull to us his family.. It was and still is a very depressing issue .. i know God did not create man to be with man or woman to be with woman, but God did give us the knowledge to show compassion and be mercifull toward these issues,people and so on.Why do all of you hate Gay people? i never seen a gay person go on a terrorist rampage or go killing spree just because they have un balancement in thier hormones.. why don’t you turn your hate toward the master that created all this chaos, Hate SIN not the people,Hate Satan not his creation of confusion in people, If you wish to talk more about copeing with gay issues please feel free to contact me on yahoo > my user name is butterflykisses29fusa
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